Jan 14, 2011
Resolution Success Means Getting Out of Your Own Way
"It is not the mountain we conquer but ourselves."
Ah…a new year. A fresh start. At the very least a new Dilbert calendar. Once again, tis the season for New Year’s resolutions. The annual goal setting, personal inventory reflection season is upon us!
And as we reflect on the past year and look forward to this year, most of us have something we want to accomplish, something we want to do. I’ve done it many times, and then get to the end of the year (OK more like the end of February....sometimes January) and wonder, what happened? Where did I go wrong?
Almost every time the answer is MYSELF!
I wasn’t committed enough, I made excuses, I rationalized my decisions, and I sabotaged my own success.
Is your goal to lose weight? (I think we have a program for that!) Learn another language? Are your goals financial or spiritual or even service oriented? Maybe your goal is to find a way to have a family vacation? Well, here are words of advice and a few links to help you on your way.
- Have a locker room pep and chalk talk with yourself. You’ve seen the sports movies where the coach comes in and delivers the inspirational speech to pump up the team, or words of inspiration are given before a battle. I'm not talking self affirmations with Stuart Smalley, but more like the Rocky Balboa type of pep talk (eat some raw eggs if necessary). Don't forget to take a moment to get in the proper mindset to not only set a goal, but to tell yourself how you will accomplish your goal. Find a quiet place where there are no distractions and start writing down your goals, dreams, plans for the year and how you will get there. When finished, print it out and post it wherever you need it...work, the car, the refrigerator, etc.
- KISS – not the band, the principle. Keep things simple. If evenings are usually busy with family time, then get up 30 minutes earlier in the morning to exercise (see how simple that was?). “Oh…but I’m not a morning person...” (insert whining sounds and see the next bullet) Be specific with your goals and how you will accomplish them. Be realistic. If you have 20 goals for the year and you've never really accomplished one...maybe you should start off with three (OK...maybe 1 for me!). Remember...baby steps!
- Avoid the excuses and obstacles. Excuses are those things that prevent you from accomplishing your goals. Excuses lead to rationalization and before you know it you’re eating bon-bons on the couch watching Seinfeld re-runs and Shark vacuum infomercials at 2 a.m. (Have you seen the new steam one?). Popular excuses include:
It costs too much…
I don’t have time…
I’m too tired…
The dog ate my homework...
The Shark vacuum infomercial was on...(this is a terrible excuse btw)
When we use excuses, we are really saying we don’t care!
- Make your goals a priority. Where we spend our time is where our priorities lie. When other obstacles or items come your way are your goals going to take a backseat? Are you going to sacrifice your goals for Bunco night with the ladies or golfing with the boys? Uh…No! (unless the golf course is Pebble Beach, or Augusta National--then you have no choice) You can still go out and have fun, just make sure your priorities and goals come first and know that you saying "Yes" to everything is a big No-No! Here’s a great article on learning to say NO! (Heck…even Nancy Reagan would be proud!)
- Find goal support. If you are trying to quit smoking or drinking, hanging out with pals at the local pub probably isn’t the greatest idea. If you are trying to lose weight, going out to eat everyday with your friends, also not the most intelligent activity. If you are serious about your goal-- your friends, spouse, family not only deserve to know about it, but can be a great benefit to you and some may want to join you! In fact you should ask them to join you! (BTW, the RVL website has a great way of inviting others to join you!)
- Abundant sources of information, inspiration and advice. No matter where you look these days there’s an over abundance of advice and information. From motivational books, to blogs, podcasts, websites, videos, programs, etc. In fact, there are some fabulous MonaVie leaders who are quite inspiring on their own! Here are a few other links that I thought were good reads to help you with your personal and business goals.
Leave a comment below and tell us your goals for the upcoming year and some of the tips that have helped you!